10 mistakes that successful people don’t make twice

It is normal to make mistakes. The main thing is to learn how to draw conclusions from your own mistakes; this will help you achieve real success. Clinical psychologist Henry Cloud has long observed successful people. As a result, he came to the conclusion that in business and personal life there are certain events that many people call an epiphany. After such moments, the reasonable person can never go back to their old life again, but will continue to move towards their intended goal.

Dr Cloud shares his own story of a conversation with a mentor after making a rash decision in business. The mentor said to look at things positively. It’s worth learning life lessons once, so you never have to go back to them again. You don’t make the same mistake again until you have had the bitter experience on your own skin.

After this talk, Cloud posted on shivarnaturals.com what moments and events happened in the lives of successful people. What mistakes helped them become successful in their business and personal lives. The research took several years to complete. But it helped the psychologist formulate 10 key lessons that, once learned, successful people never go back to them.

Lesson 1 – never try to go back in time

In work and personal relationships, you shouldn’t try to enter the same river twice. What has already ended, whatever the reason, should remain in the past. It is foolish to hope for a different outcome if the circumstances, the participants in the events, the person themselves remain the same.

Lesson 2 – not to pretend to be something you are not.

When doing any action, you have to keep asking yourself

1. Is what I’m doing really important and necessary for me?
2. Am I right for the job?
3. What are the long-term prospects of the actions I am doing now?

If the answer is no to just one question, it’s worth rethinking the appropriateness of your actions. Only if you have a good enough reason, you have a reason to keep doing what you are doing and to continue on the path you have chosen.

Lesson 3 – it’s foolish to try to change the other person

The most common mistake many people make is wishing or hoping to change another person, trying to force others to do things they do not want to do. By realising that this is a futile exercise, you will give the other person freedom, the ability to be responsible for their own actions. In addition, you will gain freedom for yourself.

Lesson 4 – no need to try to please everyone

To be acceptable and agreeable to everybody is an impossible goal. Realizing this simple truth helps you begin to live more deliberately. You must only try to please those who are truly worthy of it.

Lesson 5 – Always strive for more

Lesson 5 – Always strive for more
The habit of settling for very little, of living with ‘a bird in the hand’ is a sure way to stay in the league of losers forever. Successful people are always aware that they have to make an effort in order to achieve their goals. But that never stops them. It is the hardest steps that lead to success, albeit over a period of time.

This principle is one of the biggest differences between successful and unsuccessful people. It works not only in your career, but also in your personal life.

Lesson 6 – there is no such thing as perfection

Perfection is something extraordinary, fascinating. That’s why many people think you have to be perfect and perfect in everything. If you communicate, then only with successful people and professionals. Hire only top-notch professionals. Be friends only with extraordinary personalities. And work only in the most prestigious companies.

But often what seems too perfect, in reality, is not so perfect. All the world around is far from perfect, it is an axiom. So there are no perfect people, no perfect things. And if it seems otherwise, you just have to take a closer look.

Lesson 7 – always evaluate the situation as a whole.

To work productively without wasting physical and emotional resources, you have to learn to see the big picture. An isolated fact and the actions of others never reveal the whole picture. Winners always remember this rule.

Lesson 8 – trust but verify

Even if something looks perfect at first sight, it is necessary to make an in-depth, unbiased analysis once again. It often helps to know what we really need to know, what truth is being withheld from us.

Lesson 9 – you have to ask yourself why this or that situation occurred

The successful person always asks himself/herself what role he/she has in the events. This applies to personal, business and friendships, and careers. Unsuccessful people always try on the role of a victim of circumstances.

Lesson 10 – Internal feelings determine one’s financial situation

Often external circumstances have no effect on well-being. The obstacles are in the mind. A person can be happy and peaceful if there is harmony inside with oneself, mental equilibrium. It is these factors that influence most of life’s external circumstances.

If you have not been successful in any area of life, it is likely that you have failed to grasp one or more of these simple truths. That’s why you keep making the same mistakes over and over again.
Successful people make mistakes, but they know how to understand and recognise the reasons for the mistakes so that they don’t make them next time. Negative experiences should teach you to act more wisely next time.